Friday, June 29, 2007

to care for another..vol.1-the banyan

In 1992, a crazed, nude woman ran up and down a Chennai street under the mid day sun. As people either gawked or walked on, two young women hugged her and took her to their college nearby. They cleaned her, clothed her and calmed her down. When they tried to find an organisation in the city that would take the woman in, they realised how hard it was to find one.
It was a defining moment
It was a moment when Vaishnavi and Vandana decided they can't wait any longer. The two close friends were both 22 years old then had made a pact with each other while still in their teens, that they would qualify as professional social workers and dedicate themselves to service. They now knew they had to act right away.
'The Banyan', their vehicle of expression, was soon registered as a Trust.
Within a decade the Banyan was to have its own modern centre in a suburb of Chennai, where today about 275 women are being treated for mental disorders. The building was designed by an architect and has a professional, modern air. But don't conclude it happened by instant luck or casual patronage. The story of Vaishnavi and Vandana is full of strife, grit and lonely, hard hours. It is also a story of new India. The young ladies are part of the unknown Indian army reconstructing India as a more just society.
Doors bang in the night
The girls' parents quickly recovered from their brief disappointments; Vandana Gopikumar and Vaishnavi Jayakumar were not to head for corporate placements, marry suitable boys nor wing away to the west. They accepted their children's decision and decided to back them. When the girls went around looking for a home to house mentally deranged women people nervously closed their doors. Finally a serving officer in the armed forces let out his house. And the two young ladies moved in full time.
World Health Organisation [WHO] estimates that 1% of citizens of all countries are mentally ill. National Institute of Mental Health and Neuro Sciences [NIMHANS], Bangalore says that one woman in six and one man in nine will be in need of help. While men in India tend to be cared for better, women are set adrift. Literally. "They wander about losing their moorings," says Vandana. "They get on a bus or a train and being ignored by the sea of people, they arrive wherever the train takes them." In Chennai they are invariably found within a two kilometer radius of the Central station.
At 'Adaikalam' (refuge) Vaishnavi and Vandana soon had 9 inmates, and growing, but little money. There is a moving picture of the two young girls in the Indian Express of Aug 15, 1994. They had 'Gruff' their Doberman plus hope that help would come in. But life was hard. Once they had Rs.3.50 to feed 13 people that day. Sandhya Rao reported in 'Frontline' two year later: "Eighty women in five rooms is not easy in the best of circumstance. The matter is worse when a majority of the residents come with a history of all manners of sexual abuse, physical abuse, disease, no hygiene, no socialisation and of course lice." She adds, "one of the women had fever and was crying like a child and another begged and begged to be taken to the bus stop, but which one or where she could not say. A third begged to be excused if she had asked too many questions and a fourth demanded all my attention." It is with such wards that Vaishnavi and Vandana have spent their lives, 24/7, to use that expressive number, for close to nine years since they began in 1993.
Vaishnavi answers a question: "Yes, it was grim at times. We would have washed them, fed them, cleaned the floors, the latrines and finally settled them. It'd be close to midnight when we shut the door of our little room. And the banging would begin!" But quitting never occurred to them. That was what they had chosen and were happy to do. Soon Ashok Kumar, a young man came on board to help. And material help began to arrive too.
Banyan does not just accept women who arrive; they publicise everywhere their willingness to accept. Most women are manic depressives or schizophrenics. Many have lost their sense of dignity or ability to care any more. They are ridden with lice and maggots. Banyan races to gather them and bring them over. They are given first aid, a make-over wash and if necessary a trip to the hospital. Luckily most cases can be treated with medication reinforced with add-ons like a sense of belonging, security and feeling wanted. In about six months they are normal again and begin to ask to go home. Hope is forever resurgent.
On Nov 20, 1995, the phone rang at Adaikalam. Chief Minister Ms.Jayalalithaa's office was calling: Would the young ladies meet her later that day? She had been impressed by the Banyan's work. They were given a third of an acre in Chennai's suburbs to put up a modern facility.
The Banyan's journey is evidence of an alert, sensitive, positive, humane and dynamic Indian society. They had the land but how would they build the centre. Never mind. M A Vellodi a veteran of the IFS (Indian Foreign Service) had come on board as the Treasurer. A. Bashyam who had retired from the Indian Revenue Service [IRS] designed an organisational structure. Devi Prasad an architect got involved in designing the centre. Somehow the money came, over Rs.20 million. And the modern, designed-in-detail Centre emerged.
Today the building bustles with activity. A bevy of cheerful young ladies handle the various tasks. There is nothing melancholy about the place. Their cheer is infectious. And the air is very corporate. Communication, documentation, fund raising, house keeping, public and staff relations are all up to date arts. The brisk efficiency marks it out as a new generation service organisation.
Physicians and therapists are on call. Banyan uses an eclectic bouquet of treatments to bring their wards (they call them 'residents') back to this world. They use occupational activities, performing arts, picnics, pranic healing and whatever else that shows promise. And of course loads of love and patience. Beyond all that of course looms drug therapy. Drugs may be required life long and it is Banyan's policy to reach supplies to wherever, forever. In about six months, most residents are well and raring to go home. They beseech Banyan that they be taken at the earliest.
Vaishnavi and Vandana are insistent that they need no special admiration. "We are doing what we really want to do," they say. Their positive outlook is so rare that it is incredible. All right, real achievers don't whinge. But can the experiences they report be real in an India that we love to run down?
"We have found positive helpful attitude most of the time," they declare. Money rarely failed them. Children from nearby schools come monthly to empty their piggy banks. A family friend loaned Rs.100,000 in the early days. When Justice Padmanabhan realised it was hard for the Banyan to reach their residents to Court for formally committing them to their care, he decided to come weekly to the Banyan Centre, himself. They need Rs. 6 lakhs per month but are not in terror of not finding it. The Ministry of Social Welfare in Delhi discovered them, approached them and committed Rs.1.8 lakhs per month. The Ratan Tata Trust has committed Rs.1.33 lakhs. Regular and casual donors generate over Rs.2.0 lakhs. They conduct two annual fund raising events and these are overwhelmingly supported. They have over a 100 volunteers to help them out. Police and railway officials have always been helpful. Government officials too have been co-operative.
The two young ladies came from well to do upper income stock and were raised in a modern, integrating India. Vandana's father had served in the armed forces and she was raised all over the country. Vaishnavi's father worked for a transnational company and she was raised in Kolkatta. The first is a Malayali and the second, a Tamil. How often in the world at large do you get such diverse streams coming together to demonstrate such radical humanism? Isn't there enough evidence at hand to conclude this? Between this rising sensitive young generation and a responsive society all our ills have the prospect of becoming manageable in a finite time scale.
Thank you for your time, watch out for my next post.

Saturday, June 23, 2007

what is AIDS

AIDS is an acronym for the Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome. As the name implies, AIDS is a combination of symptoms and failures of the immune system, caused by an infectious agent. The infectious agent usually associated with AIDS is HIV, the Human Immunodeficiency Virus, named after the symptoms that it causes. While there is much debate as to how the virus is transmitted between individuals, it is universally agreed that direct contact between most bodily fluids (such as blood, semen, and breast milk) is the primary method of transmission. Indirect contact with blood via hypodermic needles is also among the leading known causes of infection.
The earliest known cases of AIDS were identified in Los Angeles, United States in 1981. Five men were diagnosed with then-rare pneumocystis pneumonia within a very short period of time. Many new cases of pneumocystis pneumonia, almost all in openly homosexual men, led to the disease being termed The Gay Related Immune Deficiency, or GRID for short. When new cases of the disease were identified the following year in heterosexual men, the disease was renamed AIDS. The cause of the outbreak was not known until French scientists discovered the lymphadenopathy-associated virus in 1983. Independently discovered by American retrovirus experts one year later, credit for the discovery of the virus and for establishing the link between HIV and AIDS has since been subject to as much scientific debate as has the virus itself. Traces of the HIV virus were later identified on tissue samples from corpses dating as far back as 1959.
As early as 1987 doubts have arisen as to the link between HIV and AIDS. While mainstream science factors HIV as the cause of AIDS, and AIDS as the cause of local diseases, there remains a small community of scientists and activists who question the validity of this claim. These groups point out that the diseases characteristic of AIDS infection are almost as common among HIV non-carriers as among carriers. Thus, had the sick been HIV carriers, they would then be considered as AIDS patients, even though their medical condition would not have changed. Also, many HIV-positive patients do not contract fatal diseases, and from a medical standpoint are otherwise just as healthy as their non-HIV positive counterparts. Thus, those who question HIV as the cause of AIDS ascertain that while HIV may in fact be more proliferant among AIDS patients than among the general public, it is not unlike other viruses in that regard.

Saturday, June 16, 2007

just listen

It's not easy to get someone's attention, believe me. Most of us are too caught up with our own lives, that we subconsciously prevent ourselves from parting with too much of our sympathy for a fellow human being. The truth is, sometimes we're not even required to interfere emotionally, however we continue to restrain ourselves from performing the most basic, yet most profound act of showing a deep, sort of unconditional love for someone, simply by listening to them.
I truly believe that most of the conflicts that surround our lives could have been prevented, had those involved in them actually listened to one another. I'd plunge deeper into this topic, but I've been severely deprived of my sleep these last couple of days and I can barely tap the letters off the keyboard right now, so I'm signing off.
Toodles, and do come back.

Friday, June 15, 2007

to live and let go

I've been going through a severe bout of depression lately. I don't really know why, but, I've been rather distant from my friends and fellow family members. Not many people know this, but Im actually a really insecure person. Like most people, I do need someone to talk to, and well, right now, I'm most certainly in need of a good listener. No, please do not come up with the idea of sending me to a psychiatrist, the last thing I need is to have a sudden, traumatic outburst of emotion in front of a stranger, let alone a shrink.
Hard truth of life #1. : No one is going to be there for you at the time when you most need them. Techincally, you are alone in this world, and if you are encountering a problem, you'll have to fix it yourself. Problems arise in our daily lives, and sulking or feeling dejected doesn't quite make them magically vanish (much to my dismay)
Hard truth of life #2. : The hardest part is letting go. Oh yeah, we've heard this one loads of times before. The truth is, it's easier said than done. We tend to hold on to certain things in life, and when things don't work out the way we expect it to, we get upset. I still remember standing next to my grandmother, several hours before she passed on. I was seven, and yeah, you could say I was pretty close to her. Through tears, my mom had earlier told me that the doctors said my grandmother may not be coming home with us. This, in turn left me feeling completely distraught, and I just wanted to be by her side, hoping to wake her up (literally, I was planning on shaking her if she dozed off. I was seven, okay, give me a break). I guess she sensed my desperation, because she turned to me, held my hand, and told me in a low fragile voice, "Just let go"
I did let go.
Perhaps that's the reason why her death didn't have that much of an effect on me.
That's all folks, see you next time.

Thursday, June 14, 2007

success.you know you want it

Hey! This is my first time running a blog, and this is my very first post, so try not to expect too much, okay. I decided to start this blog to share my thoughts, feelings, and opinions, not just with my friends, but with anyone who reads this. In fact, perhaps it would be nice to start off by thanking you, yes, you for taking time to actually read this. It means a lot to me.

Let me start off by asking you a simple question. How would you define the word success?

Success
1. The achievement of something desired, planned, or attempted

2.
a. The gaining of fame or prosperity

b. The extent of such gain.
3. One that is successful.
[Latin successus, from past participle of succdere, to succeed]


Okay, this may seem pretty weird, but believe me, its crucial, and all together essential that we truly understand it's definition, before anything can be accomplished. Based on it's definition, I think it's pretty safe to conclude that success is something that we look forward to, something that we want to obtain.

Now, just for fun, let's look at the opposite of success


Failure
1. The condition or fact of not achieving the desired end or ends
2. One that fails
3. The condition or fact of being insufficient or falling short
4. A cessation of proper functioning or performance
5. Nonperformance of what is requested or expected; omission
6. The act or fact of failing to pass a course, test, or assignment.
7. A decline in strength or effectiveness.
8. The act or fact of becoming bankrupt or insolvent.
[Alteration of failer, default, from Anglo-Norman, from Old French faillir, to fail]


It does'nt take a genius to figure out that failure is something we do not want, something we try to avoid.

Therfore, it is of utmost importance that, before we involve ourselves in anything, I mean anything, we should be prepared to welcome success with open arms. We should not even give ourselves room to think about failure, for if we do, we're bound to fail.
Thank you, and have a great day